Dress for Success | Self Care Series

Using fashion as a self-care tool is something that can help you feel confident in your own skin. Last week’s Body Love Routine is the perfect routine to do before doing this one. Care for your body- then dress it up!

Before I get angry comments, I’m not saying fashion is something you need to do to show the world you love yourself. I often wear yoga pants and baggy sweaters to classes because at 5am I’m not always motivated to put in an effort. This has nothing to do with dressing up for anyone else, it has everything to do with dressing to feel confident. I was going to call this “Dress to Impress” but that sends the wrong message. We aren’t obligated to impress anyone…instead I called it “Dress for Success” so you know that when you’re putting in effort into your look, you’re doing it for you, and only you.

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What You Need:

  • an outfit that makes you feel great about yourself
  • makeup (optional)
  • an unapologetic attitude

Step One: Why Are You Doing This?

Okay, so I’m aware that this might be a little confusing. When people think about self-care they think about facemasks, journaling, candles, and a whole bunch of other relaxing things. But self-care isn’t always about taking a break and spending time on yourself. It’s about feeling good and proving to yourself that you’re worth the effort; that you’re enough just by being you.

Fashion is one of the most obvious ways to express yourself. Your personal style says a lot about who you are. I don’t know about you but if I actually dress up and throw on a little makeup, it makes me feel pretty good about myself. It has nothing to do with what other people will think of me. It’s about knowing that I spent time on myself.

Chose an outfit that gives off the vibe you’re looking to express. If you feel like throwing on some converse and jeans (one of my favs) for a casual care-free outfit, then go for it! Maybe you’re looking to give off a boss-bitch vibe; why not pick out a classy jumpsuit and a pair of heels? What you want to be is up to you. Dressing the part is fun and you deserve a little fun.

Step Two: Your Outfit

Lay out your outfit the night before. When you wake up in the morning, don’t chicken out. Sometimes I put out a pair of jeans and tight top but if I wake up feeling a little bloated or just lazy I often throw the jeans to the side and grab a pair of leggings instead. When I do this, I cheat myself out of my confidence. Putting on the leggings feels like a defeat for me. As if my (sometimes imaginary) puffy-bloated tummy sticking out ever so slightly would be offending to everyone around me. Well, that’s just not true.

It’s a form of self-care to be unapologetic about who you are. Literally, everyone gets a little bloated sometimes so promise me: no matter what happens, you’ll wear what you put out the night before. This is something I’ve been working on for myself. And let me tell you, when I wear what I laid out, even if I have my doubts about it in the morning, I feel SO much better for having listened to myself.

Step Three: Makeup (optional)

I don’t wear makeup very often. The other day, I wrote about my skincare routine that changed my skin so much that I no longer wanted to wear makeup at all. I want to allow my skin to breathe and even if I have a zit, (which still happens from time to time), I don’t cover it up anymore.

Makeup is a choice. My choice to not wear makeup isn’t a political statement. Just like someone who chooses to wear makeup isn’t necessarily covering up flaws or their own insecurities. Every choice you make doesn’t need to mean something significant. For me, it’s mostly because I’m too damn busy to bother putting makeup on every day. My skin needs to breathe. When I do wear makeup, it’s because I want to express myself differently one day and makeup is a good way to change my look with a few easy steps.

When I have a day where I’ve laid out an outfit and am going for a certain vibe, I usually add a bit of makeup to complete the look. My go to is a copper and brown eyeshadow (I have blue eyes so this makes them pop), a swipe of mascara, and maybe a nude lip. This look tends to go with a lot of my day-to-day fashion choices, as I typically wear neutral colours, and I always feel a little boost of confidence for spending time on my makeup.

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Step Four: Change Your Attitude

People notice when you put effort into yourself. You’re bound to get a compliment or two and when that happens, don’t shrug it off. Don’t say “oh, I just had extra time today,” or “I don’t look that good.” Say “thanks, I love this top, too…” (or whatever you happen to be complimented on).

Not accepting a compliment isn’t just hurting yourself. You’re actually taking away that person’s opinion. If you compliment someone and say how much you love their shoes and they just say they threw it on because they didn’t have time, or that they didn’ have a better choice, or even if they even just act surprised, it’s 1) completely transparent and 2) not validating your personal opinion. It feels awkward to have a compliment rejected. So don’t do it.

When you make a choice and someone compliments you on it, just say thank you.

 

I hope you enjoyed my newest self-care routine. For more, check out my self-care series! I post every Sunday and if you like what you read, click here to sign up for exclusive content!

 

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15 thoughts on “Dress for Success | Self Care Series

  1. I so agree with this! A lot of people don’t see the point but for me, taking time and putting effort into choosing an outfit in which I’ll feel confident and happy about is often what gets me out of bed on the bad days.

    Great post. Keep it up!

    Giulia x

    1. I’m glad you see it that way too! Fashion really is something that can change your mood. Thanks for your comment šŸ™‚ Keep on taking care of yourself xoxo

  2. Love this post! Although I still find it strange how we have to justify or feel the need to apologise as to why we choose to wear what we wear or if we want to wear makeup and why we wear it! Or for even suggesting it to someone else!

    Ellyn x

    Life Of A Beauty Nerd

    1. You’re right. It’s so strange how something like what we wear, a thing that should literally have no effect on anyone else, is still apparently up for discussion by other people. As I mentioned in the post, it’s best to maintain an unapologetic attitude. No one should feel obligated to justify or apologize for being themselves.

  3. YES I completely agree with this! I always like to feel like I look my best, otherwise my confidence is knocked. Whenever I’m not wearing my work clothes, I make sure I look and feel amazing. Even if that means being overdressed, haha! All that matters is that we feel good about ourselves

    Vicky x

    http://www.vickyviews.co.uk

    1. Nothing wrong with being overdressed!! I’m the opposite, though. A confidence-boosting outfit is different for everyone and for me, most of the time, it’s something I feel I can move in. I NEED to be comfortable and I often feel out of place if I’m overdressed so I tend to underdress. Casual is my middle name! Thanks for your comment!

  4. I totally agree with this! I’m so lazy if I don’t have plans I’ll sit home all day in my pyjamas with no makeup on and my hair shoved up in a ponytail but when I actually make the effort to put some makeup on and make myself look half decent it definitely boosts my confidence I just need to do it more often! Great post lovely

    Jess xx

    1. Thank you so much for reading! Nothing wrong with dressing comfortably but its always fun to put in a little effort now and then. xoxo

  5. I am so impressed with this post and the warm feeling it left me. When it came up in my Pinterest feed I really clicked with the idea that the post was going to be all affiliate links with no content, but it was the complete opposite. I really heard your voice speaking and it was refreshing. Thank you.

    1. What a sweet compliment! That’s so kind of you to say! I’m glad you found my post. Yes, I do not add too many affiliate links to my content unless it’s a fashion or skincare roundup-style post because I think it can ruin a blog’s reputation. Thanks again for reading, I’m glad you enjoyed it. xoxo

  6. YES! I love this post. It’s so true. A killer outfit can totally make your day. I don’t remember which fashion blogger said it maybe Song of style? She has a bunch of pre-made outfits hanging on a garment rack so when she feels uninspired she can just grab one of them. This way she can have an amazing outfit every day and feel good about herself. This post totally reminded me of that.

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